Being understood is the point.
A message is how people stay close. The words should arrive the way you meant them.
People need to feel connected.
A check-in, a shared thought or a reply is one small way people stay in touch.
Researchers describe belonging, the need to form and keep lasting relationships, as a fundamental human motivation [1], and relatedness as a basic psychological need [2].
- Baumeister and Leary (1995). The need to belong: desire for interpersonal attachments as a fundamental human motivation. Psychological Bulletin. DOI
- Ryan and Deci (2000). Self-determination theory and the facilitation of intrinsic motivation, social development, and well-being. American Psychologist. DOI
Ways to write.
- Say the thought first. Speak a rough version, then keep the words you want in writing.
- Write one idea at a time. A short message can be easier to review than a long paragraph.
- Check names and meaning. Read a suggestion in context. Keep your original wording when it fits better.
A first line, not a script.
Reply ideas are not meant to replace your own words. They are a way in: a few starting points you can change, for when you can't get the ball rolling.
Pick a tone, choose the draft that sounds like you, and change it before you send. You send it, not the app.
Haven't heard from you in ages. How are you?
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- Sorry it's been so long! I'm good. How are you?
- Hey! Life got busy. Coffee soon?
- I've missed you. Can I call tonight?
Hey! Life got busy. Coffee this Saturday?